Out of the hundreds, even thousands of positive words and messages I have heard in my lifetime, I will never forget the three little words of advice that changed my view on living.
There I was, in a song writing session in LA with my two sisters. We have been in a band since we were kids and understood the art of writing songs, but definitely not co-writing. This was a whole new world to us, scary and exciting all in one. We were a little frightened, to say the least. This particular session was one of the first times we had been told to walk into a room with people we didn’t know and write a hit song. We were young and shy and filled with the urge to self edit. I remember wanting to blurt out ideas that would pop in my head but I felt like they weren’t good enough, even stupid. One of the writers, a VERY pregnant woman from Australia, looked at us, threw up her hands and yelled ‘DARE TO SUCK!’ Our eyes widened from the honesty in her voice, and the power of those three words. They forever shaped the way we not only wrote songs, but how we lived our lives. From that point on, we took the approach of just going for it, instead of the approach of living out a moment in our heads and not ever living it for real because we scared ourselves into believing that we wouldn’t be good enough at it.
We live in a day and age where we are controlled by what others want us to do, say or be. It’s hard to truly be unique and be ok with that, because everyone wants to be like someone else. Imagine if we lived our lives with those three words tattooed on our minds. Dare to suck. Break free from the norm and don’t be worried about the outcome. I can guarantee that you might look back and realize that some of the things you decided to do weren’t the best, but you will never regret that you dared to do them. You won’t regret that you had the guts to step out and suck at something instead of never even starting.
Looking back on how much I used to self edit, I realize how much I wasn’t truly living. Daring to suck gives you the opportunity to make the most of your life and never have regrets. You give yourself the freedom to really let go and see your dreams take shape, no matter the outcome. You start believing that daring to suck is really just daring to live, and if it sucks, oh well. You did it. So go ahead and suck. I dare you.